In your early twenties, you knew that one day your shit would be together. Sure, you were barely scraping enough money together to pay the rent, but one day, your shit would be together.
It’s the mantra that you learned to repeat over and over again.
Because adults always have their shit together.
Your parents did.
When they were your age, they owned a house. Had 3 kids and a mortgage and a BBQ out the back.
The hardest realization that you are ever going to have is when you realize that despite appearances, nobody ever has their shit 100% together.
Your parents were faking it.
I’m sorry, but they were. They were as human as you, and they didn’t want their kids to see it, but they were faking it. They were freaking out just below the surface.
And the same is true for you.
It doesn’t matter how old you get, you’re always going to be freaking out – just below the surface – and learning, over and over again that you do not have your shit together, and it’s okay.
Life is pretty messy. It’s all over the place. The human experience is a mad, chaotic rush to the middle.
No matter who you’re thinking of as a counter example right now, I can almost promise you that they feel as fucked up and chased down and messy as the rest of us.
I’d be willing to bet that every “Shit-together” idol has that experience. Elon Musk, Arianna Huffington, Michele Obama, Richard Branson, if you asked them honestly, they’d tell you that they’re still white knuckling it and pretending their shit is together.
And they’re worth more than most of us will ever be worth.
If they can fake it, so can we.
This piece originally appeared on Medium.
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